……and she did, every time.
When, as a child, her so called friends outcast her and made her feel small…..she found her strength and expression through art.
When, as an adult, her beloved grandmother who was like a second mother, rose to glory…..bequeathing to her youngest granddaughter a diamond ring and the legacy of strength. She was a woman of honor and a respected matriarch.
When her marriage failed….she honored the vow to herself….I will not compromise my own integrity….before walking away.
When she flew across the country to be with her father just one more time before his passing leaving her with the passage ‘what matter’s most is how you see yourself’. He was a man who did great things and left her with a lifetime of memories to keep her heart full.
The countless holidays she worked to help other families spend time together because she needed to keep busy and forget that her own family had dwindled and the remaining ones didn’t live nearby to be present on those days.
When the doctor told her of her impending and complete dental surgery and there was no choice.
For all the difficult things, great or small, she learned to think one thought….just suck it up, be grateful, and one day….share your story an maybe it will help someone else.
The message… you have the strength inside of you for anything. Use the process wisely to find it, do good things, and care for one another. I hope the holidays bring you joy and compassion and understanding. Peace.
When you feel misperceived…do you say anything? When someone acts like they know you….your character, your actions, your intentions……do you feel as though you need to reveal more of those traits to prove yourself or do you keep some things quiet and say to yourself ‘I know me and my story is clear to me and that’s all I need’……..yeeeaahhhhhhhh.
Sometimes we need to hear words spoken by others that we already had stored in our own head. I was talking with a couple today…..the subject was environments, and when we spend time in a hostile one, or one that creates the idea in us that we need to watch for those behaviors in all of the places and company we surround ourselves with…..can be damaging. The truest way to begin to release all of the negativity from that mindset is to leave it behind and replace it with a space, or spaces, that will be more conducive to eliminating the thoughts that some form of hostility is around all the time.
….being you. I told a friend recently….I am a true friend to the people I care about especially when I can see the intentions from them are sincere. I am thoughtful to a fault….generous, and compassionate. However, when facing rough situations we all have our methods of handling things and when pushed……I can be a real bitch. I can also walk away if a vibe with someone gets shakey….sometimes for a while and sometimes much longer. Not to be confused with lacking in forgiveness…..there is a cycle for everything that enters life…..and exits too. I think all of us can be accountable and admit or ‘own’ these truths on our own unique way and level. Be honest with yourself….always….even when others don’t see how awesome and real you are.