I am working on it.
I can definitely decipher when something us intentional or accidental. I can forgive something that ‘just happened’ without any deliberation. It’s the understanding of ‘why’ when something is deliberate that I find most difficult. I struggle with it. Perhaps a wiser person would advise me to pray or just forgive it anyways, so that I won’t carry it with me. That is what I would tell someone also. The intentional act on another by cruelty, neglect, or other harshness…….well, it remains where I have the least grey areas……it’s pretty black and white to me. I guess my methodology is where I choose to, in some way, walk away…..sometimes completely, and sometimes by placing the offender in a different area of my mind….kind of
an area of almost indifference. I may still have to deal with them in an area of my life, from time to time, but, they don’t have to consume an energy, a spirit that should be reserved for the special, the worthy, the beloved. I am human.